So, yeah. I may not be going to Umea but at least I can spend my allowance and christmas money on tickets instead!
There's always a bright side to every dark cloud and here's mine.
Aaaaaand, I'm hoping that the Script will also come back to Manila for the No Sound Without Silence Tour. Based on previous experience, they always schedule their Manila stop around March or April. I'd know because I've been to BOTH of them (2011 and 2013) with my concert buddies (hi, Kits and Kel!)
So, yeah. I may not be going to Umea but at least I can spend my allowance and christmas money on tickets instead!
I'm crying again but not for the same reason. This time, these are happy tears.
The "thing" (as my friends and I have started calling it) is still a sore subject for me to talk about but I'm surprised at how quickly I'm starting to get over it. I didn't expect to feel better so soon after the "thing" but I am and it's all because of all the love I keep receiving from friends and family.
I've been a mess lately. I wouldn't be considered as good company these last few days mainly because I've been stuck in my head all the time thinking about all the what ifs and trying to make sense of my feelings. I was hurt and disappointed and I felt crappy about myself. It sounds so pathetic on paper (or on screen, as the case may be).
Well, I realized that I was too caught up in my own head that I did not really appreciate the amount of love and support that I got from my friends and family. For that, I am very sorry. Even if I was a shitty friend these last few days, I would just like you to know that I am grateful that you've been here for me through this heartache. Your words of comfort broke through the shell of despair I was wallowing in. I didn't realize it at the time but your unwavering friendship gave me the push I needed to dry those damn tears and pick myself up. If it weren't for you guys, I would probably still be in crying my eyes out in bed and feeling all kinds of sorry for myself. I am humbled. Truly. Your encouragements mean the world to me.
If there's one thing I learned from this whole experience, it's that trying times are the true measure of friendship. I guess I needed to break in order for me to see how much I need others to help put the pieces back together. If it weren't for what happened, I think I'd still be the same arrogant girl who thinks she can do everything on her own. Where we are weak, others are strong for us. That's what makes friends such valuable players in our lives.
Not once did I feel alone through the whole process and I don't think I'll ever feel alone. This experience showed me that there'll always be people who got my six through thick and thin. And for that, I am eternally grateful.
I don't want to talk about it. I don't even want to blog about it but I'm afraid that if I don't let it all out, I might explode and I wouldn't even know where to start picking up the pieces. I guess it just sucks that I'm writing this in the dead of night and I don't have anyone to talk to right now. I guess you'll have to do for now. So bear with me, indulge me for a little while.
As much as I'd like to forget it ever happened, I can't. I've wanted this for sooooo long and it was just there staring me in the face, ready for the taking. Hope's a bitch. It dangles the carrot in front of you and then takes it away without a second thought, feelings be damned. It hurts. I'm not ashamed to admit that I can barely see what I'm typing right now because I'm bawling my eyes out like there's no tomorrow. It makes you think you've got a chance in hell to get something you've been dreaming of for months but drops you flat on your ass and leaves you to listen to the sound of your own heart breaking.
Reading that e-mail was like witnessing an accident. You know it's horrible and painful and devastating but you can't help but look anyway. I keep staring at it, impossibly wishing the words on screen would change or that somebody will come out of the blue to say that I've just been punk'd. But every painful moment that passes by is a stark reminder that this is my reality. That I am NOT going to Umea. That I need to put my big girl pants on and suck it up.
It's going to take me a while to come to terms with this new development in my life. I think the worst part of this whole shitfest is the fact that I've placed too much faith into even the tiniest possibility of getting chosen. It was stupid of me to map out the next ten year of my life on this one pivotal event and now a huge part of why I can't let this go is because I feel like I've lost control of my life again. I had the reins; I could clearly see where I was headed and how I was going to get there. But now, I feel so lost and in the dark. Right now, I can't even see past the next week now that I no longer have this to hold on to. I have no idea how to get back on track and it's frustrating to feel this way. It's only been a few hours since I found out but I feel shaken to the core.
My head was pounding since I've been crying for so long that I had to sleep it off. It's morning now and the pain is still there. You know how people who've lost a loved one say that in the morning after waking up, there are a few blissful moments where they forget that anything is wrong with the world as their brain tries to wake up. That's not what happens. In my case, I already knew something's not right from the moment I opened my eyes. Well, that's the thing that reminded me actually because I could barely open my puffy eyes from crying so hard last night. I feel pathetic as I read what I've already written and every thought that is going through my mind is even more pathetic than the last. I can’t even begin to describe how disappointed I am with myself.
This is more than just a blow to my ego. I was thinking last night that maybe that’s the reason I’m crying so hard. But it’s not.
But the thing is, I know this feeling all too well. Been there, done that. This whole thing reminds me a lot about the time I qualified for the Intarmed program. C’mon! I didn’t know what OT was back then. When I was in high school, I was dead set on going to med school and who wouldn’t want a chance to do it all in 7 years? I got an interview for but that was about as far as I got. Not seeing my name on that list of accepted candidates just about wrecked me. Back then a lot of my carefully laid out plans were centered on the possibility that I was going to med school. Then it all went to shit when it didn’t happen. Sounds familiar?
I can’t help but feel like history keeps repeating itself and I just can’t break this cycle. I keep getting all these amazing opportunities but then I do something wrong to fuck it all up. Every. Single. Time. If that doesn’t give you some sort of complex, I don’t know what will. It’s like getting a taste of the most decadent chocolate cake right before it gets taken away from you for good, and you know I’m really feeling like shit when I start making metaphors about food.
It’s already difficult enough for me to learn to accept this new reality but I know I’ll get there eventually. The part that kills me right now is thinking about how to break the news to my family. When I brought up this opportunity, my parents were so stoked about it they told practically every one they knew like it’s already a done deal. They’ve been so supportive of me. When I decided I no longer wanted to go to medschool, they did not even give me any kind of flak about it. They just accepted the fact that it’s not what I want to do anymore and backed me up in my quest to become an occupational therapist. I don’t want to see the disappointment in their eyes when I finally tell them I’m not going to Sweden. I can’t put it off much longer because they’ve already been asking me non-stop about the results. And it doesn’t just end with my parents. All my uncles, aunts, grandparents, every single member of my family had been rooting for me for this internship. Even my relatives in Europe already started making plans to visit me if I ever find myself in Sweden. They’ve even offered to send me loads winter apparel knowing I won’t find anything even remotely adequate here in the Philippines.
A couple of weeks ago on my grandmother’s birthday, she started bragging about this whole thing to the guests. I heard the pride in her voice as she tells them that not only am I the first person in the family to go to UP, but I’m also the first to be given such opportunities. Expectations suck. So there I was, minding my own business and people I barely knew were coming up to me telling me about what an amazing opportunity it would be or congratulating me as if I’m already going. I can’t even get a word in to say that it’s not even final, that I’ve only been interviewed.
And now I have to tell them that it’s the end of the line for me. It’s now just one huge clusterfuck and I don’t know where and how to begin to untangle myself from this web.
Maybe I’m feeling this way because I don’t understand why this happened. I don’t know where I went wrong and I feel like I’m beating myself up over something I had absolutely no control over. I don’t want to feel bitter about this because the other candidates were just as deserving and I consider them friends. I am happy for them but I can’t help but feel sad for myself, as well. I didn’t expect this process to be so painful. I mean, it was like I’ve done all I can to show that I’m in this for the long haul, that I want this more than my next breath but at the end of the day, I’m still found wanting.
I was with some friends when I first found out and they said that it’s okay not to be okay, that maybe this just wasn’t God’s plan for me, that there are other opportunities out there. Easy for them to say so. Because what they probably don’t realize is that THIS is the other opportunity that I’ve been waiting for. How much longer do I have to wait before I finally catch a break? I’m sick of not being good enough. Just plain sick of it.
So yeah, I think I’ve made my pathetic case. I don’t want to talk about it anymore. Well, maybe someday when I can actually talk without bawling. But right now, I just need time to process this on my own. This would be the LAST time you’ll ever hear me say something about this until I’m finally ready to let go and move on.
"RISE UP LIKE THE SUN AND LABOR 'TIL THE WORK IS DONE"
Finally decided on my personal anthem for this internship. I've all but forgotten about this song until my iTunes played it while on shuffle. It's called BE STILL by The Killers and it's now the #1 song on my official internship playlist. The rest of the songs aren't on order but this song trumps all the others. Check it out below:
Hearing that song gave me an unexpected boost of motivation and energy to do what I have to do and to rise up to the challenge.
I don't know why but the song just speaks to me. They're the perfect words of comfort whenever I feel loaded down with everything. Every line, every stanza stood out to me...
If you ever feel you can't take it anymore...
One of my realizations as I started this internship was that this adventure is one giant test of character. From the very beginning, I understood that this would either make or break me, not just my future career, but possibly how I regard myself. So many variables ride on the expectations set before me and it's kind of daunting to try to meet those expectations. These past 7 weeks were hard enough, what more in my next affiliation centers? There were times when I feel like I'm not measuring up to what's expected and it's kind of frustrating to think about how I may never be good enough. It's a real test of will, strength, courage... character... to keep at it no matter how many times I fail or stumble or feel lost.
Soon enough you'll be on your own
The song was also a bit of a wake up call. We won't be supervised throughout our practice. Right now, our supervisors are there to guide us so that when we graduate, we're ready to take the professional world by storm. Mistakes are inevitable. At one point (or several points, for that matter) or another, we'd find ourselves in a whole stockpile of shit. I guess, what the song reminds me is that I shouldn't let those instances get the better of me. Instead, I should be true to myself and be confident in that fact that I'm ready to face these challenges. I got through my first three years in UP for a reason. I will not let my failures define me. I won't.
Rise up like the sun
The most important part is getting back up. Failures serve only one purpose: TO BUILD US UP INTO BETTER VERSIONS OF OURSELVES. Falling down is one thing but it doesn't end with scraped knees and bruised egos. Glory is found in the way we pick ourselves up and run faster than we've ever run before... to rise above and beyond where we stumbled and fell. And we keep running, never stopping (well, aside from those essential water breaks and breathers, that is... but nope, NEVER stopping) until we cross the finish line.
And yes, I also cringed at the cliched metaphors.
I was on the bus, on my way home and the rain was pouring.
I was just looking out the window and listening to sappy music and feeling all sappy in general (it's the weather, I swear!), when suddenly, this scene appeared in my head and I just had to write it down.
I have no idea if I'm ever gonna publish anything for real, but for now, you'll have to settle for SNIPPETS here and there of my lame attempts at writing.
"...thoughts and ramblings;